Contemplating suicide?



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I graduated college 3 years ago and still haven't found a job in my field. I work at a restaurant, still live with my dad (I'm 28). Believe me I've applied to many jobs and still haven't been able to land one. I don't hate my job at the restaurant but its just a bit above minimum wage and I went...

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    Michael 2017-07-08

    people love to spend money, so I would say the future looks good. there will always be hotels to manage and people to please

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    Audrey 2017-06-01

    isn't hard at all you just have to learn the drink and learn the amount of syrup and milk when making a drink. you'll learn it all in one week i guarantee.

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    Eli 2017-05-22

    that's not a good idea. you need to take at least a short course to become a bartender. how else will you know how to make all of the drinks??

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    Jaxon 2017-06-24

    If you do know how to mix drinks, lie on your resume about the amount of time you worked as a bartender. Make it at least 2 years. Server experience also helps. When the first job calls you up for training, go there - training itself can teach you a lot, even if you don't stay there. Try to get as much training as you can, and then you are ready to go. Good luck.

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    Victoria 2017-05-11

    THere are many jobs for english majors. Can't find one? MOVE. A jobs a job. Look all over the country for one. And itll help you start a new path on life, if youre not satisfied with your current oneI'm not going to lie to you. Life is hard. And it continues being hard until old age, and even past that. But suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You can go back to school and get a new degree. Or, you could move and find a job in a new location. Honestly though, your major isn't the problem. The economy is hurting right now and it is difficult to find work regardless of your field of work. Dying is not the solution you're looking for. You can make it through all of this. Life gets easier, then harder, then easier again. It's a roller coaster ride and it's fun if you let it be. I'm not looking for best answer here or else I would have just mentioned the easiest way to off yourself. I'm concerned about you as I believe all humans should have concern for one another. And I am hoping that you take my advice. Because life is worth living, but you have to live it to figure that out.

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    Andrew 2017-06-15

    offer to prove yourselve - and work for a week for free for them, but you can keep your tips.

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    Oliver 2017-07-01

    Well, it's a matter of opportunity (being in the right place at the right time), the ability to market your personality skills, and knowledge. My friend is bar manager at my restaurant. Six years ago he was my dishwasher. Just keep trying and keep telling the owner you would love the opportunity to try. Good luck! Chef SteveYour father owns a bar?! Will you marry me? Really, bartending requires experience, which you are getting, but why only one day a week. Your dad doesn't want you working behind the bar? You need to read SEVERAL of the books about bartending; the Harvard one is good. Then you need to immerse yourself in the magic of mixology and learn the different drink recipes you will be making. There is a procedure to making drinks, melding the glasses, ice, booze, mixers, and garnish into an efficient presentation. You also need to know the behind the scenes stuff about dealing with beer taps and mixer snakes and coolers and inventory and cash management. And then you can concentrate on the most important bartender skill - dealing with people. Document any experience you can get, become a alcohol expert, and try to impress the hell out of any interviewer. Keep learning & keep trying.

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    Jacob 2017-06-06

    my dad was a chef, and i cooked from a very young age i then did my training, and went straight into a job very quickly i hated it long hours, hot hot conditions, a long and thankless task, and i worked for a very high class establishment, i knew plenty who worked in way worse conditions than me, its a very high pressure job, i walked away without a 2nd thought i love to cook at home, and you'll always find me in the kitchen, but as a career, not for me sorryI can answer this is a former Chef. Do you like your job-Well, I loved to cook (and I still do) but for work it stinks! The hours are long and weird, you have to work many hours on your feet, you have to often times work at night not to mention holidays. I do not know what your family stiuation is like but I can tell you that it kills your social life. Your family will be enjoying a holiday and you will be working your butt off. lol Also, save for a very few jobs the pay is low and then to ad insult to injury the pay is getting lower and lower as time goes on. Immigrants are willing to work these jobs for less than you would! I am NOT racist just telling you the truth on that. Do you make a living?-You may after years of working your way up the ranks and then again you may not! The good paying jobs are extremly limited! Was the school hard?-The one I went to was easy. I hear some of them are hard. lol What made you want to be a Chef?-My passion for cooking. That in and of itself is not enough! You also have to be willing to work long hard hours for very low pay! I would say don't do it. There are so many other jobs that pay more, do not entail this kind of work etc. All, I can say is you have to love it to the point where you do not care about low pay, harsh working conditions etc. Cook at home and do something else for work! It stinks for work!

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    Aubrey 2017-06-12

    In my experience of 8 years in the restaurant/bar business, most restaurants only hire from within for their bartenders. They want someone who also knows the menu, and how the restaurant is run. I had 2 jobs where I was hired in as a bartender, one was in a chain restaurant and I was hired in right before they opened the restaurant. The other, I was hired in as service bar but got a strong referral from a friend that was also a bartender there. If you don't have experience, it may be hard to find a bar or restaurant that is willing to give you your first gig. As far as the bartending school goes, I've heard that story before. I had a friend go to bartending school in SC and was pumped full of fantasy about working in the nicest clubs in the area. All bogus. After he "graduated" he went to one of the places on ABC Bartending Schools job database and was laughed at to his face. They told him his info was wrong, that they would never hire anyone who's only experience was in bartending school. He tried to get his money back, but that never happened either. I think your best bet would be to find a restaurant and start from there. You may need to wait tables first to "get in" with management, but it might be your best bet.Go for what ... gypsycricket said ... I'm a cert bartender and have had my own Concierge Lounge for Marriott Hotel. What she said is the utmost truth and that's for sure. ~wink~ (I just fell in the Concierge Lounge thing, I never made a drink before that a day in my life, but since I learned hands on from that, if I wanted to work in a bar or a club I could) Go For It Girl ... You'll make crazy money in a gay bar (just my 2 cents) ... a friend of mine owns one of the Biggest gay bars in Ohio. (his bartenders rack up so much money, gay and straight, that they have pent houses, ETC and they only bartend.) ~Wink~

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    Isabella 2017-05-07

    Depending on where you live try looking into the convention center as a temp. Also another friend of mine started out by working at a local performing arts center and doing private parties for people. I have also done private parties (catering) and once your name spreads by word of mouth its amazing. Also try there are multiple oppurtunities on there.Hi there, As a manager of one of L.A.s biggest bars,here's my tips. # 1....Do not ,any time bring your resume to a manager during a lunch rush or any other busy time,you will be seen as a nusuance and the resume will probably end up in the trash. #2 Hang out at the place you might want to be employed at,make friends with the bartenders,don't let them feel you are "competing"with them for the job.They may be able to steer you some place else and put in a good word for you. #3Don't say that you've been to "bartending school".It doesn't really matter unless you want to tend at a corparate place.It also makes you sound out of the loop.Most people hiring bartenders want an "origanil",Make up a signatue drink that people love,name it something cathchy and just don't be too full of yourself until ,you get behind the bar.Always remember to respect your bar back,you'll need him in a busy bar.Good Luck///