Juanita has given you what you are asking for and it sounds like a good sauce (cudos to Juanita!), but perhaps it is time to try leaving the bad things behind instead of looking for their replacements. Have you considered marinating the meat in plain white vinegar and rubbing with oil, salt, and spices before BBQing? You might be surprised at the flavor you have been missing under all that sauce! Eating simpler may be a mind set that will help you more than living the same old lifestyle with substitutions. Don't mean to sound preachy, but if the mind set is not there- you're not going to change. Good luck, live simply and eat simply.